Knowing Our Limits: Special Needs Parenting

 

So this happened today.  I’m not sure if I should be sad, frustrated, or annoyed.  Maybe all three.  Maybe none?  After all, it is what it is, and we just have to deal with it.

My older two kids are in a scouting group.  A tour of a police station has been in the works for weeks, but we didn’t really have all the details yet.  Today, we found out that due to space issues, only a limited number of scouts plus 2 leaders would be allowed to go.  Add a 30 minute presentation to that, and I thought about it for all of 2 seconds before I officially backed out of the trip.  Hard nope.

 

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A Quiet Celebration

I’m crossing my fingers that writing this post won’t send us careening off the deep end of refusals and fights over schoolwork.  You just never know around here!

It dawned on me over the last few days that whew! We’ve accomplished a lot in the last few months!  I actually kept track of our schooling on a heavy school day and realized that we’re averaging 3 hours a day of school work for the Engineer.  More if you count the educational videos.  For us, that’s a LOT!

Of course, it’s not 3 hours of straight work.  There are wiggle breaks, bathroom breaks, even a few game breaks.  I count that too – because public school has bathroom breaks and recess, right?  The actual instructional time is probably closer to 2 hours, maybe more.

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Homeschooling Fallacy: Don’t Practice

 

 

Before I start writing this, I need to emphasize that every kid is different.  Every kid has different needs, and those needs might not fit the norm or even the average.  Homeschooling is about working around the hurdles to meet the child’s needs while helping them grow and learn.

 

Well, that happened

I drew a little fire this week for stating that my son needs to practice handwriting and reading because of his learning disabilities.  Many homeschoolers chose to homeschool because they believe that traditional schools push too hard and too fast, and the studies on early childhood development support less formal academics in the early years.

Because of these two things, homeschoolers tend to react pretty strongly to efforts to recreate “school at home.”  We generally suggest taking it slow, doing fun learning, and going at the child’s pace.  What people tend to forget is that the child’s pace might not match anyone else in their age range.

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After-Christmas Burn Out

 

 

This time of year stinks.  The holidays are over.  No more parties, the decorations are coming down, and the anticipation is gone.  It’s still dark as hades out there at an ungodly hour of day, and the weather generally isn’t cooperating as well.  For us, here in the crazy weather of up-one-day-frigid-the-next Virginia, we’re just now entering our snow season and everything is dreary and chilly.

For kids with intensities, this after-Christmas let down is hard.  Super hard.  My kids hate it – they want the fun and the festive back instead of the boring and normal.  It takes work and understanding on our part to help them deal with the let down and emotional drop after the holidays.  Here are a few of the things we do, and tips we use to help them transition back to “normal” life.

I just typo’d “life” as “lice.”  I sincerely hope that we can stick to boring and normal instead of THAT!

 

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The Santa Dilemma

 

 

If you celebrate Christmas, chances are you’ve had a brush with the Santa dilemma.  Do you tell your kids that he’s real?  If they already figured things out on their own, how do you keep them from blowing it for others?  And possibly, you’ve already dealt with the upset parents of kids who now know more than they should, thanks to your kid.

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