Before I start writing this, I need to emphasize that every kid is different. Every kid has different needs, and those needs might not fit the norm or even the average. Homeschooling is about working around the hurdles to meet the child’s needs while helping them grow and learn.
Well, that happened
I drew a little fire this week for stating that my son needs to practice handwriting and reading because of his learning disabilities. Many homeschoolers chose to homeschool because they believe that traditional schools push too hard and too fast, and the studies on early childhood development support less formal academics in the early years.
Because of these two things, homeschoolers tend to react pretty strongly to efforts to recreate “school at home.” We generally suggest taking it slow, doing fun learning, and going at the child’s pace. What people tend to forget is that the child’s pace might not match anyone else in their age range.
This time of year stinks. The holidays are over. No more parties, the decorations are coming down, and the anticipation is gone. It’s still dark as hades out there at an ungodly hour of day, and the weather generally isn’t cooperating as well. For us, here in the crazy weather of up-one-day-frigid-the-next Virginia, we’re just now entering our snow season and everything is dreary and chilly.
For kids with intensities, this after-Christmas let down is hard. Super hard. My kids hate it – they want the fun and the festive back instead of the boring and normal. It takes work and understanding on our part to help them deal with the let down and emotional drop after the holidays. Here are a few of the things we do, and tips we use to help them transition back to “normal” life.
I just typo’d “life” as “lice.” I sincerely hope that we can stick to boring and normal instead of THAT!
If you celebrate Christmas, chances are you’ve had a brush with the Santa dilemma. Do you tell your kids that he’s real? If they already figured things out on their own, how do you keep them from blowing it for others? And possibly, you’ve already dealt with the upset parents of kids who now know more than they should, thanks to your kid.
Today was not a good day. In fact, today was a foggy kind of day, interspersed with random screams of “don’t stand on the table!” and “he ate what?!” I spent most of my day on the sofa and the rest of it dragging myself around. No homeschooling happened today. Nope. Zilch, nada, not a bit.
That’s ok. That’s why we school year-round and at weird times, so that we can roll with the bad days and still get our learning on. It irritates me – that I can fall apart at a moment’s notice – but it’s my new normal. Sucky kind of normal if you ask me.
This week’s thoughtful reflections were triggered by two very different viewpoints I ran smack dab into out on the internet. I don’t want to make this a political post, but I do want to point out a few things that I struggle to reconcile in my own situation.
- I am a feminist.
- I am a stay-at-home-parent homeschooler
Those two don’t mix well.